Here Comes the Sun

I did intend to avoid the cliche "New Year, New Me" post but since you're reading this, that clearly didn't go as planned. I decided to start a new blog. There was nothing wrong with Second Street Secrets, in fact I will keep and use it at times, but I plan on using this one more often!

I've read many posts from people outlining in great detail what 2020 was for them. Don't get me wrong 2020 was quite simply a bitch. I feel as though most people can relate to that on some level, and I'm sure many people have positives things to take away too. But for the first time ever, I'm not worried about the past. I don't care about what 2020 was or wasn't. I am focused on 2021. 

I'm not going to sit here and write out a ton of resolutions which I will commit to half-heartedly. "I'm going to work out!" and then march comes around and I forget how to get to the gym. "I'm going to blog every week!" and then I login in 6 months and realized how terrible of a blogger I am.  Setting goals and having resolutions is great, however I think I've found something more important for myself. 

Perspective. IT. IS. EVERYTHING. In my opinion, perspective is what will help fuel the change you want for yourself in the new year. I have many hopes for this year but my main goal is to keep and focus my perspective on things. I could look at this year, of my ill awaited "milestone" birthday in a dreaded way as I have before. But I'm not. Yeah, I'm turning 30. But I also have so many plans. I am working on starting a new business venture with one of my best friends. I'm planning on moving to a place I was supposed to go to 5 years ago, but this time hopefully doing it with one of my other best friends. I'm going to finally get my Bachelor's degree, a long journey full of 3 schools, several majors and many memories, coming to an end. I hope to begin work toward Graduate school as soon as I can.  I generally don't have this optimistic perspective, but now that I do, it feels empowering. 

I read this story recently and hope it opens your mind as it did mine.

There were two brothers, who were twins. One brother was always in trouble with the law, he was into heavy drugs and drinking. He was often homeless due to his reckless behaviors. Someone once asked him, why did he choose this life? why this path? And he told them it was because his father was an alcoholic and beat him everyday. His father told him he would amount to nothing. 

The other brother went to college. He became a lawyer. He was married and have children. The same person asked him, how did he choose his path? how did his life turn out this way and his brother's life so differently. And he told them it was because his father was an alcoholic and beat him everyday. His father told him he would amount to nothing. So he wanted to prove his father wrong and take his fate into his own hands and not allow those circumstances to decide his life. 

We have the ability to analyze every situation, obstacle, problem, goal etc in our lives and find multiple perspectives. Find the perspective that moves you forward and doesn't hold you back. If there is something that isn't sitting right with you, look at it again.